Single parent dating with kids
“Before I had my son I liked dating, but now it’s hard work,” says San Francisco single mom Eleanor Scott, who has a 5-year-old son. Census report, there are close to 200,000 single parents in the Bay Area.
“As a single parent, you can’t be spontaneous anymore, which is a really important thing for dating.” Dating Frustrations Scott is not alone. More than three-quarters of these are women who hold primary custody of their children.
“I’ve had virtually no success with them,” he says of his 10 years’ experience.
“My advice is to be willing and wanting to meet people and you’ll find that you meet them in real life.” Mott takes the initiative to be social and encourages his married friends to invite him to parties – something they tend to overlook because of his single status.
Scott, for example, finds that writing a dating profile can be particularly cathartic.
“Every time I’ve brought it up, however, I’ve been pleasantly surprised that the men have not overreacted.
Do you remember what dating was like before you had kids?
Perhaps you prepared for hours, trying on a dozen outfits, flat-ironing your hair to perfection and engaging in imaginary conversations with the person who could possibly turn out to be “the one.” Now imagine being a single parent on a date. Is this guy really worth the an hour in babysitter fees?
Some of these parents are newly single, still in tender shock over the breakup of their marriages or relationships.
Others can’t fathom mixing dating with raising kids, so they put the thought indefinitely on the back burner.“I should have never dragged my kid into this relationship.” Bringing Kids Into the Mix When and how to introduce a child to a single parent’s dating life depends on the age.